From the category archives:

Resistance & Sabotage

When Your Resistance Isn’t Yours

My definition of resistance is anything, in us or in our life, that pushes back when we try to move forward. When it happens, it’s so easy to feel like resistance is “your fault” no matter where it’s coming from. But there’s a very subtle category of resistance that LOOKS like it coming from inside [...]

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Why Resistance Gets Worse When You
“Work On It”

So many things in life get better when we just do a little “work” on them… …like the yard, the car, our taxes, the kitchen counter, the cluttered closet, etc. So how come with resistance, its the reverse? I got an email the other day from someone in The Heart’s Voice community telling me how [...]

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Breaking Out of the Stuck Zone – Free Teleclass July 26th

In 2004, I came across a book that changed my life . Looking back now, I like to say that the book “outed me” in a way I’d never experienced before. While I was reading it I kept having the same thought, over and over, “How does he KNOW this about me?!” The book, Your [...]

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Fleeing: A Time Honoured Tradition

Last October, as you may have read in my post on The Quickening, I tapped into a big vision. I felt like I was seeing the future of my work, a whole new level of this dialogue about resistance, and a powerful way to help messengers and change-makers of all stripes lend their voices and [...]

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There is NO “Square One”

“Oh, well. I guess it’s back to square one.” This is a phrase I hear a lot in coaching sessions and I heard it again from a client just last week. It’s almost always said with frustration and regret. It means that all our good progress has been ruined by a missed action and now [...]

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Discover the Wisdom of Your Resistance for FREE

You WANT to be taking action on your true desires, but you just can’t seem to get past that invisible wall that’s got you stopped. Maybe random things just keep getting in the way. Maybe you’ve been telling yourself you’re too busy – but that doesn’t make the longing stop. Or maybe you KNOW you’re [...]

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Beyond Jekyll & Hyde – Outgrowing our fear of ourselves

When you’re dealing with the part of yourself that’s getting in your way, it’s helpful sometimes to grab onto a metaphor - an image or idea - that helps you understand what’s going on. But what if that metaphor is making things worse? I read a post a month ago by Marelisa where she did an excellent review of [...]

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Why Traditional Coaching is No Match for Resistance

Coaches generally tend look forward not back. It’s therapists who dig into the past. And the coaching profession is pretty careful to distinguish themselves from therapists. My work has evolved exactly at the intersection of coaching and therapy because I’ve discovered that both ingredients are essential when dealing with resistance. I know plenty of coaches [...]

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