In 2004, I came across a book that changed my life .
Looking back now, I like to say that the book “outed me” in a way I’d never experienced before. While I was reading it I kept having the same thought, over and over, “How does he KNOW this about me?!”
The book, Your Own Worst Enemy – Breaking the Habit of Adult Under-Achievement, written by Dr. Ken Christian, thoroughly explores all the ways that we habitually limit ourselves and gradually create lives of settling for just a little, or sometimes a LOT less than we’re capable of. (And he delves fully into the way our school systems helps create this, too.)
Ken coined the term SLHPP’s which stands for “Self-limiting High Potential Persons”, as his work and research showed him that its the brightest among us who tend to do the most self-limiting.
This is where my inner cringing began.
He then goes on to describe 12 very distinct self-limiting styles such as “stop-shorts”, “floater-coasters”, “self-doubters”, “rebels”, “checkmates”, “extreme non-risk-takers” and “extreme risk-takers”.
When I saw my exact self-limiting style described EXACTLY in his pages, I knew that my days of hiding were over. (I was a very clear “stop-short” with low-risking tendencies.)
At the time, I was already engaged in very deep training with my own teachers in growing my awareness and my ability to work with any pattern or “program” I encountered in myself. So I brought these same skills I’d learned to the patterns Ken was showing me in the book.
In hindsight, this was the beginning of my work with, and deep study of resistance.
By 2009, I had developed an effective process including a map of resistance and the biological mechanisms behind it, and distilled that down into a distinct series of steps that could be facilitated and taught to others.
Somewhere along the way, I think I said to myself “Wouldn’t it be cool if I could tell all this to Ken Christian?”
Well my full circle moment has arrived!
In a moment of complete serendipity, a good friend and former coaching client of Ken’s contacted him in early March of this year to point him to my website, where his book was being proudly promoted in my sidebar.
And, because of who Ken is, after he’d checked out the whole site, he decided to just pick up the phone and call the contact number he found and say “Hi, thanks for putting my book on your website”.
We talked for an hour and a half!
Somewhere in the middle of that first call, we both had the thought “We should present something together one day.”
And here it is:
On Tuesday, July 26th, at 6 pm Pacific, 9 pm Eastern, Ken will be hosting me on a special teleclass for his MaxPotential community called “Breaking Out of the Stuck Zone”.
We have a LOT to cover on this call, and we’ll be discussing:
- How the brain creates resistance
- Why you can never “think” your way out of the Stuck Zone
- What the latest research on brain plasticity can tell us
about how to get the brain un-stuck - How you can end the battle with your resistance
- How to eliminate the guilt, shame and feelings of inadequacy
that go with being stuck - Four words that can help you break any self-limiting pattern
- Why breaking your old habits requires space not time
- The missing ingredient in any action strategy
- The 5 steps that I use to resolve the fears underneath resistance
And I’m sure we’ll get into a bunch more stuff that I can’t even predict right now. That’s just how our discussions tend to go!
Plus, I’ll be sharing some research I’ve uncovered where a California doctor has developed the very same steps I’ve been using on resistance and is using them to treat OCD (obsessive-compulsive disorder) VERY successfully.
I’ll be sharing why it works and the crucial 5th step that they’re missing.
Even if you can’t be on the call with us live, register at the link below so you can get this recording:
Breaking Out of the Stuck Zone Teleclass
(If you’re reading this post in your email, you might have to go to the website to get a clickable link.)
I truly hope you can join us and …to the friend of Ken’s who had the thought to send him here…I am eternally grateful!!










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Holy cows! This is amazing, and I thought I’d read everything. This describes a lot of where I struggle. Thanks for writing about this!
Thanks so much for stopping by Elana. Glad it resonated with you!